When it comes to making the transition from casually dating someone to becoming more serious, what are the things people look for? Is it someone you can laugh with? Someone that shares the same values as you? Or someone who you can be comfortable with? To get better insight into what makes a woman ‘girlfriend material’, we asked men on the popular dating app Zoosk, what they’re looking for in a serious partner.
Over 3,000 men answered the anonymous survey and really opened up about what they’re looking for in a woman and in a relationship.
Here are some of the most revealing answers:
“I really admire honesty and trust. Not only do I want a girlfriend that I can love, but someone who is there for me and I can turn to as a friend.”
“I want a woman who shares with me… her story, her feelings, her views, her hopes, her fears. Even what she didn’t like about her past relationship(s)!”
“A woman with intelligence. A romantic. And a little flirtatious.”
“I love when a woman does something special just for me, or makes me a good cup of coffee.”
“I like when women are just themselves, showing the good, the bad, and the ugly. Sometimes you just find a match.”
“Humility, sweetness, kindness, wisdom, patience, unique, talented, brave, charismatic, fun, funny, honest, grateful, courteous, empathetic, sympathetic, ogical, faithful, loyal, spiritual, beautiful, encouraging. NERDY!!! Movie lover! Comic fan! A Sci-fi/action lover, a basketball/football fan. All of it!”
“It’s a turn on when a woman is confident in herself. She is perfect just the way she is. If I like her, it’s because she likes herself.”
“I want a beautiful, sexy, and smart woman who is unafraid to speak her mind.”
“I’d love a woman who could laugh at some of my dark jokes.”
“I like when a woman likes to hold hands, and pulls you in close. When she lets you know she’s into you and isn’t afraid to show it.”
“Humbleness, strength of character, affectionate, cares for others, shows understanding…”
“I want to meet someone who can enjoy the little things… like a woman who can appreciate a guy who loves to cook and clean as well as work his butt off.”
“I like brave, strong, outgoing women.”
“I love a woman who cooks for me, who makes an effort to spend quality time with me, buys me practical gifts, and asks me to play guitar for her.”
“I’m looking for someone who loves the outdoors, sports, being active, hunting, fishing, riding four-wheelers. Just being a plain out sweet old-fashioned country girl who loves the mud and loves her family as much as she loves herself.”
“I’m looking for an overall general kindness. And it doesn’t hurt if she can laugh at my ridiculousness.”
“I like women who are confident, secure, mature, assertive, kind, adventurous, and even a bit silly. Although, don’t get caught up in the adjectives. Women are undoubtedly the most attractive, when they’re simply being the best version of themselves.”
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